Question: I have always been told that if a man really wants you then he will come after you. So when I go out I don’t ever make the first move because I believe that’s a man’s job. Yet I have had some male friends tell me that this is the wrong way to think. That I should be more willing to make some effort if I see a guy I like and want him to talk to me. So which is it? Should a woman approach men or is that a man’s job.
Answer: A woman doesn’t necessarily have to approach a man but she should at least show the man she is interested. A smile, good eye contact, or even striking up casual conversation are all good things to do. Not to mention giving him a compliment so that he has a better idea that you are interested. After that it’s up to him to seal the deal by asking for your number or giving you his.
Ultimately a woman can’t expect to sit back and do nothing if she wants to increase her chance of being approached. Being willing to take that step can go a long way towards meeting someone new that could have the potential for something more.
Certified Relationship Expert and Coach Stephan Labossiere is a man on a mission to help men and women experience more successful and authentic relationships. He knows firsthand how challenging the male and female dynamic can be and strives to bridge the gap of communication between the sexes. is his first book in a series aimed to break down the barriers and turn the battle of the sexes into nothing more than a pillow fight with a mutually pleasing ending.